After giving much thought on whether to write this or not, I finally made up my mind.The reason why I have hesitated so much is that there is a great deal of emotion linked with a person’s death and I might hurt someone, digging their memories which they never wanted to recollect, as losing our loved one is a sole spoiler of all the happiness, love, relationships and order of the family and no one wants to imagine that day or its coming.and the other reason is “its not cool”.We are not supposed to utter some words. But every living creature on this planet has to experience it one day or the other,Its a common destination we all share.so why hesitate to talk about it I thought,and for the very same reason I titled it as “death” without using all those pretty faced euphemisms like “Passing away”,”to be expired”,”To go away forever”,”sudden demise” etc.I wanted to sound as harsh as its in real.
So how we humans face death?How do we accept it?Can we make a pact with it?Can we bribe it?or can we manipulate it?NO.It is the most brutal and vicious guest, which we all must serve one day. It takes various forms, but the kind of havoc it creates around it is unbearable and most significant.The big void it leaves when we lost our loved ones is incapable to be filled with.It leaves physical and mental trauma in our families.It fills the air around with sense of despair and dilemma. It leaves us with questions like “Of all the evil persons around me,why only he or she?” or “Why Now?Why only when it seems like everything is falling into place?”.On the flip side it cleanses its victims soul.It repays its host with the most beautiful gift called “Eternal Peace”.It unchains all those shackles which he has been bound with for years,it frees him from that zillion tons of weight which made him crouch second after second. It throws him into that eternal space where he always waited to go but hesitated to accept it because of the fear of leaving his loved ones.
Is it not great if we all know our death date before hand?If we know how much time we are going to live here,like we all had stamped with an expiry date ?Then we can plan things and live our lives as we had planned.That would be boring I know,but there would be no pain. there would not be this heart breaks of being left alone. But the beauty of human lives lies in its unpredictability. The truth that our future is unpredictable makes our lives worth living. There is no sense in happiness when there is no pain at all. Easier said than done.But here is a life hack about dealing with unpredictable future that can make a real difference in our lives.Its from Steve Jobs, what he had said in his famous “Stay Hungry Stay Foolish” Speech.
“..When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.“
Some of you might be thinking “Why this sudden gaga about death?”Let me explain.A week ago,I have lost our uncle.He had a heart stroke,hadn’t lasted for 15 minutes.He seemed to be a healthy person always with no symptoms of heart problems,was a very nice person,pretty straight forward kind,loved every one with no prejudices.He dealt with death too in his own fashion of being straight forward.I never knew how it feels when a person who you see everyday,who saw you growing,departs to heavens suddenly.It has hit our family like anything.The Infinite grief won over us.For almost two days the atmosphere around us grew more and more suffocating, crushing us under distress and sorrow.
My thoughts made me restless.The thought of all my friends are between 23 to 26 and our parents are approaching that mark of 50 starting popping out of mind now and then.”Stop being such a pessimist.avoid negative thoughts” I said to myself many times. Tomorrow will always be better .Death is something one should not think of, you can flirt with it sometimes, but you should not fall in love with it.You can’t fall asleep if you keep thinking “What if an Earthquake strikes at 3 am and am fully asleep? Hope is something mankind runs on. But there is always a “but”.Questions like “Did our lost ones have got what they had truly deserved?Did we love them enough?Yeah everyone of us have that Infinite love for them, and our parents dont expect that we say it everyday,but the question is did we express them what they mean to us?” came again and again.
Many of us,including me dont requite our parents love.We are shy to show our love to them.Yes we eagerly wait for those BIG MOMENTS.Moments like Winning competitions, Earning fat salaries,Buying a luxury car etc.”This is for you” would be our statements of love then. But why wait for the big moments when you love them each and every day, in every breathe you take.Speak out. Break that hurdles.Avoid formalities. Say “I love you” once in a while.Stop giving excuses. Dont be that “I’m shy,I am an introvert,I dont know how to express my feelings.”Remember the day you proposed your girl friend/Boy friend? Why always chase for Imitation Jewellery ,when we always have our own diamonds within our reach ?To love and not to express is a sin. To Love and not to express is not a love at all. Future is unpredictable and destiny can hit us any time.So love them like there is no tomorrow.
Surya Speaks 
Nice man. I love you ☺
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I thought of sharing my INSIGHT … here we go———————————————-Stand Above from Belief/Dis-belief…Virtue/Sin …Like/Dis-like…Good/Bad…Heaven/Hell…Attachment/Detachment…Entanglement/Dis-entanglement…. then when you see the things the WAY IT ISeverything in this world is a Miracle … the Water which you drink … the Air that you breath … the land that you Walk upon.if someone who is Conscious enough of his/her own breathe … they perceive Everything whole differently and intensely… and DEATH is a Tremendous Possibility for the Whole new level of Transformation !!!———————————————————Surya I really have to Appreciate for your thought process and your effort on expressing…keep expressing…One day the whole world will start listening to YOU !!!!!! Cheers Buddy!!!Madan R
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Thanks man.. 🙂
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